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Become a Better You in the Car

by Kim Staudenraus on August 2, 2010

incarIt’s a new month.  A good time to start fresh.  A time to make wrongs right, and improve who you are.  What are you going to do this month that will be an improvement over what you did last month?

Some people go from month to month thinking “I hope this month will be different” but yet they don’t do anything to make the month different.  Your life will not change for the good if you don’t put some effort into it.  One definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.”  In other words, this month will be no different for you if you do the same thing you did last month.

Joel Osteen had a great message about continually learning to improve ourselves.  In that message he said the average person is in their car 300 hours a year commuting from place to place.  300 hours!  That is a lot of time trapped in one small location.  What are you doing with that time?  Are you talking on your cell phone?  Listing to the “goober and gomer” show on the radio? Or worse, just sitting there complaining about traffic, which is the least productive thing you can do.

Why not set a goal for yourself this year that anytime you are in the car you will use that time to listen to an inspirational learning CD?  Think how many CD’s you could listen too in 300 hours.  I started this last year by listen to Joel’s “Become A Better You” CDs, it was so good that I must have listened to it seven times or more and each time I took something new from it.  I even bought it for a couple of friends. Anyway, my point is, I spent that time in my car listening to something that I could learn from, I used the time in my car to improve myself and grow both spiritually and emotionally.

So what if you have small children, it is hard to listen to something like that with kids in the car you say.  Well, I don’t have kids, but can only imagine what it is like being in a car with them for a while.  Why not play a game with the kids, have them look for things in nature that is unique, like a special cloud formation, are even seeing a deer  or cow back in the woods off the road.  Then say a prayer with them out loud in the car thanking God for the wonderful cloud formation or what ever the creation from God they may have seen.  It will teach them to appreciate what God has created, and isn’t that better then them playing a video game?

Sometimes, if you are alone in the car, tired from the day, needing some peace and quite, take that time to converse with your Lord.  Talk out loud to Him.  Tell Him about your day, what upset you, thank Him for something that may have happened.  Listen to Him, he will speak to you in ways you may not realize, even by giving you are extra stop light to insure you are not in that accident that just happened up the road a bit.

Time in the car alone is also a good time to pray for others.  Intercede on their behalf.  I pray daily for my covenant husband on my way to work and on the way home as well (I pray for him when I am not in the car too).  Anytime I see a rescue vehicle flying by with lights and sirens on, I say a prayer for not only the drivers in the rescue vehicle but for the person they are on their way to rescue, as it usually means someone is hurting or not feeling well.  I pray for individuals  I see a car accident on the side of the road as their day and possibly their life and the lives of their families has changed sometimes dramatically in an instant.

This morning I had switched vehicles and my teaching CD was in the other car so I was listening to the local Christian music station, when I made a turn I was directly into the most beautiful sunrise I have seen in a long time.  I took that moment to thank God for letting me see that, and showing me that He lives and will be guiding me though my day.  Sadly, I admit that in the past I have not taken in the beauty of what our Lord presents us through His creations.  But just seeing that sunrise was a reminder, a small learning experience that I must always stay focused on the “Son.”

How is praying a learning or growth experience?  It puts others first rather than yourself, and we all need to learn that.  It teaches us to be a little less selfish and self-centered and more selfless.

So start this month, what will you do to become a better you?  What will you do to “make this month different than last month?”

Make a goal to change what you do while you are in your car.  Take that travel time of 300 hours this year and make it more than just getting from point A to point B.  Make it a self improvement journey!

May God Bless you!

Reposted from January 2009

I am pleased to announce this article has been featured on the following site:

The Chat at the Cooler April 2009 Personal Change Carnival

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Time To Move On

by Kim Staudenraus on August 1, 2010

Have you gone through a divorce?  It is one of the most painful and stressful things a person can go through.

Sure over time the pain lessons a bit, but it is still there after all a piece of your heart has been ripped out.  The pain is there because God never intended us to go through divorce.  He intended marriage to be for life.  Society today makes is seem like divorce is a part of marriage, but it is NOT.

Marriage should be taken seriously, as a covenant.  It should not be something that is entered into based on a “feeling” but rather a lifetime commitment.   Since my divorce I have had friends and family say to me that “it’s time to move on.”   There have even been times when I thought God was telling me to move on, until I read scripture.

What I realize and believe is that I made a promise to my husband to be married, through sickness and in health, good times and bad.  Yes man’s law may see me as divorced, but I believe God sees me as married, and this is one of those “bad” times that my vows referred to.

Most people do move on after divorce, they meet someone else, many times get married again.  As much as the statistics say that one in two first marriages end in divorce, the divorce rate for second and third marriages are even higher than that.  Sure some second or more marriages do survive, but they are very rare.  One thing is for sure, without God as the foundation in a marriage, even if marriage does survive, it will not be a little heaven on earth as God intends.

No, I don’t think it is time to move on.  Yes, it is lonely at times without the man I love next to me sharing life with me.  Regardless of that earthly loneliness I have God next to me, supporting me as long as I look to and focus on Him which I admit there are times I do lose site of Him.  I look away, I get angry, resentful, I struggle, however, I can choose to live that way and to be honest it is easier but that doesn’t make it right.  Just like leaving a marriage is much easier than working on it for the long haul….easy doesn’t make it right.   Anyway, I can choose to live angry, or I can choose to live happy, be positive, trust in God.

Trusting in God, it is not easy at times.  It would be easier to look for a replacement just as most in today’s world do.  What would that say about my character, my relationship with Christ?  I am a Christian, I don’t believe as a Christian I should do what the world expects or what most in the world would do.  I believe it is my responsibility as a Christian to, as the best I can do in a broken world, reflect Christ in my life.  I am not perfect, I falter every day but each and every day I have the opportunity to learn and become stronger for the next day.

Time to move on?  Yes, but not as the world see it, it is  time to build a new deeper relationship with Christ, focus my time and energy on God as I pray for my covenant husband.

Do I know what God has in store for my life as it relates to my covenant husband?  No, but I do know it is not to seek out a replacement for my husband.  I do believe I have gone through this season for a reason, that God does have a plan for me, and I will be patient and wait on Him, to wait on His timing in my life, not my own and not the timing of this world

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It’s Easier To Pull People Down Than Raise Them Up

July 26, 2010

Several years ago at church the pastor had an example on stage where he stood on a chair and asked one of the elders to stand in front of him on the floor.  The pastor then attempted to pull the elder up onto the chair.  He wrapped his arms around the elder, under his arms [...]

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A Better Life

July 25, 2010

Most of us are continually growing.  We do so because we want to improve what we have and who we are.  This is not to say we are unhappy with our current life, just that most people don’t like to be stagnant.  Just as we should never stop learning, we should also never stop growing [...]

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The 80 20 Rule

July 21, 2010

Today I was listening to an audio lesson on the 80/20 rule.  You know, the 20% of the people do 80% of the work concept. In my experience I have found this rule to be pretty much true to life.  Granted the percentages may be off a little and this isn’t a math lesson or [...]

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My Spouse Left…Now What?

July 17, 2010
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I receive so many emails about broken marriages, it is upsetting what satan is doing.  This is republished from February ’08 with additional and what I think is the most important information and resource you can use during this time of separation and/or divorce, the update is listed at the bottom. What do you do [...]

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I’m Broke…..

June 3, 2010
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“I’m Broke….But my kids are happy.” This is what the lady in front on me at Kmart said yesterday when we were inline as she was unloading a cart full of toys.  She went on to say she had two kids and their birthday’s were coming up. Her posture confirmed her words, she seemed defeated….broke. [...]

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Which Path Will You Choose?

May 20, 2010

What is a path?  It can be defined as “a course of conduct” , “an established line of travel” or “a way especially designed for a particular use”.   To simplify, there are really two paths we each have laid out in front of us.   One is leading us to success and happiness, the other to [...]

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Fireproof Your Marriage

December 24, 2009
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Is it possible to fireproof your marriage? Being married is wonderful; it is also the hardest thing in life that you encounter on a daily basis. It takes learning each others expectations of what being married is all about. It takes understanding, as well as learning to love each other after the “feelings” have worn [...]

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Fireproof – A Must See

September 28, 2008
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Fireproof was released on Friday and I took the afternoon off to see the matinee. The movie is fantastic and a must see for everyone who is married, separated or divorced. Ladies – Have you ever felt like your husband just doesn’t understand you.  That they have no clue about all the hard work you [...]

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The Duck & the Devil

July 26, 2008
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Sometimes you get an email that is so powerful that forwarding to a friend or relative just doesn’t seem enough. Today, I received one of those emails from my uncle. It is was titled “The Duck & the Devil.” I couldn’t even imagine what this could possible be about so I read in full…and Wow, [...]

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