Marriage, sharing your life with another person for life, or at least you thought it was for life.
Have you gone through a divorce, separated or are currently living in a hurting marriage? I understand your pain, but there is hope through Jesus Christ.
When we get married we don’t do it with the thought process of getting divorced year later. We get married because we have made a choice, yes a choice not a feeling, to love our spouse. All marriages have ups and downs, happiness and hurts. Even though a marriage may be in a hurting season, we are surprised when our spouse makes a choice not to stay with the promise they made, that we both made to each other “for better or for worse until death”, instead they decide to leave.
Oh the hurt, the anger, the pain that their choice causes. Oh I know you may feel relief at first, peace even. Suddenly you begin to feel the tug of Christ. Reminding you about your promise, the covenant you made with your spouse before Christ. For better or worse, sure you may be legally divorced, but in God’s eyes you are still married. For better or worse.
My friend, you are not the only one going through this pain. Nor are you standing alone. I am a faithful stander too. Please watch the video clip below from a couple who had a hurting marriage, one that ended in divorce.
Standing will be difficult at times, you will most likely think about giving up. Don’t! Never give up! “…With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26
Pray and read the Bible, you can’t stand alone, you need God. Pray the full armor of God around you and your spouse.
Read the full story of Jeff & Cheryl Scurggs in their book “I Do Again” their true story will give you further encouragement that spouses do come home, marriages do and are being restored because – Nothing is impossible with God.
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What if my spouse has remarried??
What do I do then?
Only God can answer that question for you.
My wife and I have been separated just over three weeks now. She said that right now there is no hope and that she has no feelings for me as a husband anymore. But we both are Christians and I believe that the God we serve is a God of miracles and reconciliation. I have been to many websites that encourage standing for marriage even in the most bleak of circumstances. I have chosen to be a stander no matter what anyone says because the Lord has given me the heart to do so. I placed our marriage in His hands and stand on His word, my faith in Him, and of course a lot of prayer. I know He will do the work on His terms and in His time. To Jesus be ALL glory and praise!