If the title of this post seems strong, good! It’s meant to be. I can’t think of anything else that I really “hate.” Sure there may be some things I don’t like such as brussel spouts, or other things I don’t care for like someone weaving all over the interstate while they are talking on their cell phone, but the only thing that I really hate is divorce.
In the last six months I personally know of four couples who are heading for divorce. Two of which were in the last two weeks. In each case the husband decided that they would enjoy life better without their wife. Three were already involved with another woman, the fourth stated he left to “be alone” but has since found another woman…so much for being alone.
In every case the remaining spouse was very willing to forgive and attempt to work out the issues of their marriage. In each of the four couples one party was totally unwilling to be honest and truly work on the covenant commitment they made with their spouse. Two of which lied and went to counseling, even stated things were getting better has they were basically packing their bags.
Three of the couples have children, one couple even experienced two mis-carriages in the effort to start a family, now they have two beautiful daughters and he has just walked away, stating he wants nothing to do with his wife or his daughters.
The longest marriage was 23 years, the shortest 8 years. Two of the couples knew their was something wrong, the other two were totally surprised by their husbands decision to leave.
Why?? Why is it men, and yes even women, think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence? For the few prodigals who have read down this far, when the endorphins of this new found life wear off you may find that the grass still needs to be mowed regardless of which side of the fence you are on.
Marriage is for better or worse. How is it some people think they can just walk away, some even run away to find peace else where instead of living up to their commitment? Society has glorified divorce, even made it out to be “your right.”
Sure their are biblical reasons for divorce. But there is no reason for a spouse to leave to seek another or to seek a self centered life style. It is just not right, at least not right as far as the Bible says.
The one thing that satan does best is break up marriages, and families. It causes hurt and chaos in so many ways. One is the kids are hurt, many blame themselves for their parents issues. Many kids are confused why there is a counterfeit mom or dad in the picture. Let’s face it, no body can raise, love or care for their kids better than a healthy biological parent.
Another way divorce effects people is at work, when you are going through a divorce your focus is not on your work. You are dealing with emotional strain, plus adding to your normally busy schedule by visiting attorney’s, counselors, mediators, and the like. Some even lose their job due to these distractions.
Yes, I hate divorce! I hate what satan does to marriages. I pray every single day that prodigals will stop listening to the world and satan and start listening to the still small voice of Christ. I pray that these prodigals will return to their covenant spouse.
I pray that the spouse who wants to save their marriage will pray, pray, pray. Prayer and Bible study are the number one ways to save your marriage. Focus more on God, build a relationship with Him. In addition, as humans we want something from this world to study as well that will help, that is why I have a link to “Save Your Christian Marriage” on this site as well as always recommend Rejoice Marriage Ministries for support. If you hate divorce like I do, please use both of these resources to help save and heal your marriage.
Also, while your praying for your own marriage, please pray for every marriage, that they will be surrounded by a hedge of protection against satan and his evil attack against families and marriages all around the world. Divorce must be stopped, it doesn’t help anyone and hurts so many. I know, I have gone through a divorce, I didn’t study enough, I didn’t have a strong enough relationship with Christ. I didn’t pray enough. I hate divorce!
It is meaningless that I hate divorce, listen to what God says, why do so many people go against God?
“I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith. Malachi 2:16 (NIV)
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