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Can A Rascal Change?

by Kim Staudenraus on March 28, 2011

Merriam-webster.com defines Rascal as: a mean, unprincipled, or dishonest person

Wordnetweb.princeton.edu defines Rascal as: rogue, a deceitful and unreliable scoundrel

Over a decade ago someone important to me once asked “Do you think it is possible for a person who is a rascal to change?”  My answer was something to the effect of “anyone can change if they want to.”

It wasn’t until many years after that conversation that I realized, after getting to know this person better, that they were referring to themselves and their actions indicated they did not want to change, their actions were that of a “rascal.”

Why would someone choose to be a rascal?  This is a hard question for me to answer or for that matter understand.  I can’t imagine living a life being deceitful and unreliable.  The only conclusion I can come up with is they are living a life apart from Christ.

Over the years I believe this person really did want to change, why else would they of ever asked the question?  But I believe just as we all have a primary love language, some people have a natural language that is dishonest, or unprincipled.  It comes natural to them, maybe because of their upbringing or some tragedy earlier in life that they felt they could only survive by being a rascal.  Just as with me for example, my natural language is honesty, directness, and pride in having good character and integrity.  I was raised knowing to be successful in life you needed to be honest, reliable, etc.

It is difficult to cultivate relationships with rascals, mainly because once you realize they are a rascal you also realize they cannot be trusted.  How do you have a relationship with someone you can’t trust?

However, I do believe that rascals can change if they want to and most importantly with God’s help.  Nothing is impossible with Christ!  He can take out the harden heart and replace it with a heart of flesh.  It takes intercessory prayer of others as well as the will of the person wanting to change, but I do believe rascals can become individuals of character.

It is up to people who are in full relationship with Christ to set the example.  To be the mentor and coach in helping those rascals in this world turn to the light.  Yes, there will be some people who choose not to change, some people are just unsafe.  That should never stop us from turning our light off as being an example of a safe person in Christ.

If you are a rascal and are tired of that life, ask God to come into your heart, ask for forgiveness for your past actions and mean it.  Work on learning a new language in life, the language of integrity and good character in Christ.  You just may be surprised how much better life is when you are honest and reliable as well as how different you are treated by others.  Your relationships will blossom.

My prayer today is that all those rascals we know will reach up to the Hand of God, hold on and never let go for a life changing experience.

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A Bad Egg

by Kim Staudenraus on September 19, 2010

It’s Sunday morning.  A beautiful day.   Sunday’s are a relaxing day for me.  It’s my day do some laundry, do some house cleaning, maybe even mow the lawn.  (Funny as I wrote that it doesn’t sound too relaxing.)  :)

Part of my Sunday’s include making a nice breakfast for myself and today was no exception.  I decided to poach a couple of eggs and have blueberry waffles.

As I have said before, I am no Martha Stewart but I can poach eggs and know how to pop my Eggo’s into the toaster.  While things were cooking, I unloaded the dish washer and popped open a Cherry Dr. Pepper, yeah, I know it’s morning but I have a hard time drinking coffee when it’s 85 degrees out.

Anyway, the waffles popped up, I turned them and popped them down for a second cycle.  Checked on the eggs, yes, everything was going to finish all at the same time, it was going to be a good breakfast.

I heard the toaster pop and there were my two cooked waffles, perfectly golden brown.  I spread some butter on each one and then poured some real maple syrup on each one.  By now the eggs were perfectly poached and I placed them on the plate, added a little salt and pepper, grabbed a napkin and sat down to eat.

All part of my normal Sunday.   I started with a bite of waffle, yum.  If you haven’t tried the blueberry Eggo’s I highly recommend them.  I took a second bit savoring the taste of the all natural maple syrup and hint of blueberry.  From there I took a bite of egg white, yes this breakfast was good, until I had my second bite of egg.  This bite was all egg yoke…..I guess you know by the title above, it was a bad egg.

I have never experienced the taste of a bad egg until today and I can honestly say at this moment in time I don’t know if I will eat an egg again. (I hope that feeling leaves me in time) but as of now that is how I feel.  Oh, it was awful!  If you can imagine how a road kill smells, you know the taste I had in my mouth.  It was sickening.  I checked the egg carton, it had an expiration date of October 6 so no reason why it would have been bad.  I had eaten eggs from this container earlier in the week they were good.    I didn’t try the other egg I had cooked, nor could I finish my waffles.   To be safe I threw out the remaining eggs in the carton.

This experience made me think about how we are as humans.  You never really know who someone is until you get inside, until you get to know them.  Until they “open” up to you, you really don’t know someone.  They look good on the outside, but who are they on the inside?   There are some people who never let you in, who never really let you know who they are.  Just like all the eggs in a carton, you really don’t know if they are good until you crack one open and even then you may not know if it is good until you cook it and take a bite.

When I look at the most popular articles that are search for and read on this site one of them is Identifying Safe People For Success Of Self , why is that?  Maybe it is because there are a lot of eggs out there that appear to be good but you find they are not safe until you are able to crack them open.

Funny how a bad egg at breakfast can make you think.

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Identifying Safe People for Success of Self

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