Have you gone through a divorce? It is one of the most painful and stressful things a person can go through.
Sure over time the pain lessons a bit, but it is still there after all a piece of your heart has been ripped out. The pain is there because God never intended us to go through divorce. He intended marriage to be for life. Society today makes is seem like divorce is a part of marriage, but it is NOT.
Marriage should be taken seriously, as a covenant. It should not be something that is entered into based on a “feeling” but rather a lifetime commitment. Since my divorce I have had friends and family say to me that “it’s time to move on.” There have even been times when I thought God was telling me to move on, until I read scripture.
What I realize and believe is that I made a promise to my husband to be married, through sickness and in health, good times and bad. Yes man’s law may see me as divorced, but I believe God sees me as married, and this is one of those “bad” times that my vows referred to.
Most people do move on after divorce, they meet someone else, many times get married again. As much as the statistics say that one in two first marriages end in divorce, the divorce rate for second and third marriages are even higher than that. Sure some second or more marriages do survive, but they are very rare. One thing is for sure, without God as the foundation in a marriage, even if marriage does survive, it will not be a little heaven on earth as God intends.
No, I don’t think it is time to move on. Yes, it is lonely at times without the man I love next to me sharing life with me. Regardless of that earthly loneliness I have God next to me, supporting me as long as I look to and focus on Him which I admit there are times I do lose site of Him. I look away, I get angry, resentful, I struggle, however, I can choose to live that way and to be honest it is easier but that doesn’t make it right. Just like leaving a marriage is much easier than working on it for the long haul….easy doesn’t make it right. Anyway, I can choose to live angry, or I can choose to live happy, be positive, trust in God.
Trusting in God, it is not easy at times. It would be easier to look for a replacement just as most in today’s world do. What would that say about my character, my relationship with Christ? I am a Christian, I don’t believe as a Christian I should do what the world expects or what most in the world would do. I believe it is my responsibility as a Christian to, as the best I can do in a broken world, reflect Christ in my life. I am not perfect, I falter every day but each and every day I have the opportunity to learn and become stronger for the next day.
Time to move on? Yes, but not as the world see it, it is time to build a new deeper relationship with Christ, focus my time and energy on God as I pray for my covenant husband.
Do I know what God has in store for my life as it relates to my covenant husband? No, but I do know it is not to seek out a replacement for my husband. I do believe I have gone through this season for a reason, that God does have a plan for me, and I will be patient and wait on Him, to wait on His timing in my life, not my own and not the timing of this world
